Alasdair, you are quite right to be concerned as regards the suitability of kit supplied white metal components in rigging. Frequently they simply are not strong enough to take any sort of tension and either deform or break.
I tend to replace all white metal bottle screws with brass working ones so you can tension things properly. These should be connected in a way that reflects real practise, frequently with running rigging ropes ended in a loop fixed with a short length of black heat shrink to simulate a tarred canvas cover over a splice and standing rigging wires ended in a loop with a short length of heat shrink painted grey to simulate a swaged thimble. Bottle screws should be connected with shackles and eyes where appropriate. I get my eyes from chain links. I fix things into bulwarks with threaded eyelets, screwed into a hole drilled into the bulwark at such a size to enable the thread to cut into the wood, but wiping the thread with epoxy before screwing it in.
For mast fittings if there is no loading then I might use the kit supplied part but, for standing rigging anchors I might use a scratch built brass ring.
Two shrouds at the bow:

Two side shrouds painted up and weathered:

A mast head arrangement:

And some running rigging on the mast:
