WOULDN’T IT BE NICE

[neil hpParticipant @neilhp]

Wouldn't it be nice, just now and then, when someone joins the site specifically to ask personal message questions, to then acknowlege your reply to them as a gesture of good manners.

In the last 6 months that has happedned to me……3 times………….have answered the question that they put to me…………………….. very quickly and promptly with nothing but kindness……………..and then………………absolute zilch……………….. they don't even bother to thank you for your reply…..

You Know who you are…………please don't waste my time again!!……..I'm not impressed, and manners cost nothing.

[neil hpParticipant @neilhp]

[david the newbeParticipant @davidthenewbe]

hi Neil

i agree with you i have only been here a few months and i do say thankyou to people who help me as yes it pilite to do so and if thay are reading you reply it only take 2 mins to type thankyou in the box below or click the reply button at top of private massages

dave

Edited By david the newbe on 06/11/2012 10:24:43

[Paul TParticipant @pault84577]

I had the same problem a few weeks ago

[Colin BishopModerator @colinbishop34627]

My experience is that most people will say thank you for answering their query whether it is by PM or on the open Forum. However, there are a significant minority of people who regard assistance on internet forums as being a free public service and will not acknowledge that it has taken time and trouble to answer their questions. They are probably the same people who download music tracks without payment on the basis that 'everything on the internet must be free'. There's not really much that can be practically done about this.

To some extent, most of us are guilty of plundering the net without giving anything in return when we seek information by browsing other forums, not just model boat related ones, but this is a passive activity and doesn't actually require anyone else to put themselves out specifically. We contribute by sharing our own expertise on this forum which is free to read by anyone.

There are ohter people who use this forum solely to make a private sale of a model boat, either theirs, or maybe their deceased Dad's. As long as it isn't a commercial post I tend to let these stand on the basis that there is a potential benefit to our members who might be interested in the item for sale.

And then there are people who register with every single MHS magazine forum to give them the maximum opportunity to win prizes in our competitions which they can then sell on Ebay! That is why the better prizes are offered to magazine subscribers only as we can be sure that these people are actually interested in model boats.

I suppose, as the saying has it, 'There's nowt so queer as folk' and a lot of them are after something for nothing.

Colin

[neil hpParticipant @neilhp]

Thanks guys, I thought I was just being a sensittive grumbling old git with a back ache this morning……..

as my old dad once said…….."manners maketh the man, young lad, and it doesn't take any time out of your own life to help others………..it's on their concience if they don't respond"

cheers,and glad I got it off my chest.

neil.

[Dave MilbournParticipant @davemilbourn48782]

Everyone gets a first chance from me, but if they don't show their appreciation then I tend to ignore any further questions from them. I think Colin has it right about certain folks' expectations from the Internet. Advice might be free but being polite costs nothing either.
The more 'mature' customers are far more polite in general. It's strange but I still am genuinely surprised and pleased when someone rings just to thank us for the quick delivery of an order or to tell us that everything works fine when wired up according to one of my diagrams etc. It makes the job all the more worthwhile…..and I shall miss it if only for that personal contact.
I have to say also that, unlike Neil, I invariably receive a "thank you" from members of this forum – unlike another forum I could mention!!!

Dave M

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Hi ,

a THANK YOU costs nothing, Dave and Colin comments are to the point ,

it is a bad mannered world , have you been shoping to the local market and stand that queue and

see the attajude of the staff , who are serving you , service is not the same these days ,

GRUMPY LARRY…………..THANK YOU……

[Dave_PParticipant @dave_p]

Totally agree, manners cost nothing but unfortunatley people do not seem to be taught manners anymore. As to attitude of some people serving in shops I had a real display of total uninterest recently resulting in me asking why said person is working at the store if they hate it so much. The person was not a youngster either.

So count me in as a member of the grumpy old wotsit club

Cheers

Dave

[Andy HustlerParticipant @andyhustler32076]

As a retail security officer i find manners are a very important part of the job and coming from a hotel,and catering background i find good manners just come naturally and annoys me when people don't say please or thank you and stand with their arms folded , a very defensive posture meaning do not approach me . One of my trainers many years ago told me manners maketh the man .

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