WHERE DO I START

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Hello all,

Had a hard week with the old ticker, so thought is time to give up the hobby , and sell up , family not interested , wife more so ,

have a a lot of boats ,tools ,plans books mags,and build bits , and all the other stuff that makes this hobby so rewarding, so what to do

would like to sell to one buyer

with hospital looming its time to take stock,

have to much stuff to list, would like to sell the lot at one fixed price,

there is alot value in the work shop,

its a shame, but must be realistic , i have seen a deceased sales

end up at boot sales,i dont want that to happen ,

i have given a lot of part builts away to beginners,

only to see it put on ebay . wich i dont aprove of ,…

thats feelings at the moment ,

sorry to be mounfull i do enjoy the chats on here , and the commen sense

comments given , cheers for now Larry..

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

[Paul TParticipant @pault84577]

Larry

Like you I have been through the mill with my ticker and I can honestly say that the hobby has seen me through the worst of times. Yes there have been times when I have been so low that I couldn't face getting up never mind working on a model but those times pass and I rejoice that I didn't get rid of my boats and tools.

Do yourself a huge favour and don't get rid of anything for a couple of months, just sit back and take stock of your life.

PM sent

Paul

[Colin BishopModerator @colinbishop34627]

Paul is right Larry, don't make any immediate decisions. Like many of us, you can scale back your activities but still enjoy the hobby at a level that you are comfortable with.

If you give up your hobby what does that leave you with? My wife isn't interested in modelling either but she still encourages me to do it as we have our own interests which benefit both of us.

You can still sell off surplus items that you no longer have a use for but still keep the core tools and facilities that you need.

Colin

[neil hpParticipant @neilhp]

Larry, I totally agree with Colin and Paul.you have probably amassed those tools over a lifetime, just as many of us do……..and they are a part of you……….Stop, think, and then act when you have a clear mind.neil.

[Dave MilbournParticipant @davemilbourn48782]

Larry
Just imagine that in a couple of months from now, when your heart is behaving itself again, you walk into your shed to find it empty. You will have severed all connection with the only passtime you really enjoyed. There's only so much dog-walking and pottering in the garden that a creative mind can take.

Think again.
Dave M

[Tony HadleyParticipant @tonyhadley]

Larry,

Over many years of building and sailing model boats, I have given up numerous times, yet always gone back to the hobby. Don't do anything hasty, keep the models, tools etc, just take a break and see how you feel next year.

Don't forget there are a lot of long winter nights coming where 'cutting balsa' will be a necessity. Tidying the garden isn't much fun in the winter.

Just my thoughts,

Tony.

[Bob Abell 2Participant @bobabell2]

Hello Larry

I was in the same boat as you last year and it felt like the end of the road!

I just tidied up the workshop, with a heavy heart and disposed of all the old unwanted stuff and just hoped for the best……Taking one day at a time

Happily, my situation has improved and stabilised and I`m back tinkering!

Take heart from Paul`s advice………He`s been there many times and comes bouncing back!

All the best…….Bob

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Thank you all for nice comments,

some nice feed back there but there is more than boats a stake here , have a wife on the verge of leaving cant cope with illness , but i surfide a triple by pass in 2004 , and retired from work ,

at 73yrs , ,and allways been active, so finding hard going now ,

had three spasems last night do through the heat, so a little rough to day ,

will try get a inventory together so i can take stock , dont want to items skiped ,

mind you it will be like recycling in my case, thank you for being there cheers Larry…

[ARTHUR COLLETTParticipant @arthurcollett48040]

Hi Larry.

Lock Up and take a break. Find Sanity amongst the Madness. You sure will miss the tinkering. I suffered from depression and still have my off days where i sit in the shop for hours on end just looking. Although not the same situation as you but soon enough you start to find the need for something to do. Seems everybody at some stage do fall in this dark pit. In my case depression. Hope you reconsidder and best of luck to you and the wife. She is as mutch part of this as you. In My Prayers Mate.

Arthur

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Thank you Arthur, its hard at the moment, cheers Larry.

[Aestus57Participant @aestus5782081]

Hi Larry, I'm not a member myself, I'm SWMBO of Aestus 57, like your wife and I suspect many other wives I don't have a great interest in model boats, but I can see the passion that my husband and others like yourself have for the hobby and I can see the satisfaction that solving a problem and producing, finally, a finshed project brings – (22 years on one project for aestus57!!!!!!!). Yes of course there are times when I wish he wasn't in the workshop but we all need an escape. I really hope your wife is ok and can help you through this difficult time. My uncle was into model boats in a big way and he was ill for quite a few years before he died but he kept his workshop, there were times when he locked it up and had to leave it for a time but his wife was very supportive and when he was able to do a little work out there it gave her such a boost as she knew he was having a 'good' day and for that time however short or long it felt that life was normal and that was so good for both of them. Even when he couldn't manage out there just knowing it was there was a great help. Sadly when he died she did have to sell off the workshop but its amazing how good and kind people can be and people in local clubs helped so much and took the strain from her. I wish you and your wife all the very best, I know I'm not a modeller but I can still see things from another perspective. Good luck to you both.

[neil hpParticipant @neilhp]

Posted by Aestus57 on 18/07/2013 18:25:08:

Hi Larry, I'm not a member myself, I'm SWMBO of Aestus 57, like your wife and I suspect many other wives I don't have a great interest in model boats, but I can see the passion that my husband and others like yourself have for the hobby and I can see the satisfaction that solving a problem and producing, finally, a finshed project brings – (22 years on one project for aestus57!!!!!!!). Yes of course there are times when I wish he wasn't in the workshop but we all need an escape. I really hope your wife is ok and can help you through this difficult time. My uncle was into model boats in a big way and he was ill for quite a few years before he died but he kept his workshop, there were times when he locked it up and had to leave it for a time but his wife was very supportive and when he was able to do a little work out there it gave her such a boost as she knew he was having a 'good' day and for that time however short or long it felt that life was normal and that was so good for both of them. Even when he couldn't manage out there just knowing it was there was a great help. Sadly when he died she did have to sell off the workshop but its amazing how good and kind people can be and people in local clubs helped so much and took the strain from her. I wish you and your wife all the very best, I know I'm not a modeller but I can still see things from another perspective. Good luck to you both.

How lovely a statement, and even more so coming from "the other perspective"..Well said Mrs aestus, and very nicely put.neil.

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Hello , mrs Aestus

Thank you for very nice reply, must have been hard for you, but still in limbo here ,

will have regreats if my models and tools go to a good home,

and do not end up on fly by night sale web site ,

cheers and thank you Larry….

[Ian GardnerParticipant @iangardner62867]

Hi Larry,

So sorry to hear of your difficulties and I wish you all the very best. Like many others I'm sure, I have enjoyed reading of your modelling exploits. I can only reinforce what others have said, your workshop and contents will have taken a long time to acquire and they aren't eating anything, so please don't do anything rash.

I know it must be hard at the moment but things can change- you have seemed so irrepressible in the past and hopefully you will bounce back. Try and stay cool (in every sense) and see how you feel in a while- we're all rooting for you.

All the best…Ian

[mike farrellParticipant @mikefarrell21522]

Now then Larry ,so sorry to hear of your recent troubles. BUT A WORD OF ADVISE. May 2012 I was diagnosed with Pancratic cancer and feared the worst as at 70 years I was not over confident of survival for very long . My first thought was to clear up my workshop and leave less for my ever suffering wife to deal with . A brilliant surgeon and a lot of luck and I returned to my work shop I am now progressing very well and hope you do the same Us older stock are made of stiffer stuff and seldom give in .Lean a little on those who wish to help and you will win through .Best wishes Mike

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Thank you Ian /Mike,

I am still ploding on with chinese junk, photos tomorrow,

allowed 1hr a day in work shop thank goodness model boat forum

cheers Larry.

[Dave MilbournParticipant @davemilbourn48782]

What would Mrs Larry have you do once the hobby has been sacrificed?
DM

[LARRY WHETTONParticipant @larrywhetton68737]

Wait for god, or fight Larry.

[Amy jane SeptemberParticipant @amyjaneseptember49770]

I'm sorry to hear of your plight, Larry. Not my place to offer advice, Being at the other end of the age spectrum. But my thoughts are with you, none the less.

Amy jane

[Paul TParticipant @pault84577]

Larry

Ever since your posting both Jane and I have been thinking about you and have been discussing your position in relation to ours. Jane has said that she appreciates your wifes point of view and that the membership should spare a thought for what she is going through.

From a very worried wifes perspective when I am having fun in the workshop Jane can't rest as she is listening for every noise to know that I am still alive and panicking when the noise stops because she fears finding me dead on the floor. So what is some fun for me is a ticking time bomb for Jane, I now do a lot more work in the lounge and only revert to the shed for cutting and painting simply to make Janes life a little easier.

Its not anger against the hobby as I could be fishing or playing with steam engines, its an anger against the unfairness of having your husband living on a knife edge, we have been together since school and fear loosing your partner and then being on your own is very strong. This puts both of your lives on a kind of hold and Jane had an underlying rage at an illness that cant be cured.

It was our eldest daughter who mentioned to Jane that she was always angry and frightened, after this Jane has realised what the problem is and whilst she doesn't worry any less she manages to control it better.

Jane hasn't had a decent nights sleep since 2005 as she wakes up every hour just to check on me and of course I am oblivious to this as the meds tend to knock me out at about 10pm until 6am. Being a partner of someone with a chronic illness is a life sentence of worry and fear.

So we should take the time to consider a worried partners point of view and perhaps make changes to how we live our lives in order to make theirs easier.

Paul

[Bob WilsonParticipant @bobwilson59101]

Larry,

Even if you wish to pack in modelmaking, I would not recommend that you get rid of all your tools just yet. Just leave them dormant. Maybe get rid of some of the models by selling them on Ebay and hand the proceds to your wife! I never make a penny on my models! I always sell them and hand over 100% of the proceeds to my wife, but any materials/tools that I purchase, I get refunded!

I know building large models takes a lot of time and energy, and will, for the five millionth time, (I always exagerrate) suggest that you build something smaller that requires less energy and time!

Not necessarily miniatures, but half the size of what you do now would be a start!

A month ago, I decided that I had had enough (through general lack of interest in my field of shipmodelling) and stopped building them, but it never ocurred to me to get rid of all my tools – they are still lying there, dormant! Should the urge come upon me to start again, there will be nothing to stop me from doing so. In the meantime, all my recent models have been sold and we are currently having the house redecorated!

Best wishes whatever you decide.

Bob

[Rod smartParticipant @rodsmart62545]

Hi Larry just back from scotland to read your posts .Ihavn't been on for a while but enjoyed the forum and help you have given me.Arthur is correct and we will miss your postsstand fast mate and good luck what ever you decide. Rod

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