Andy, I can see your points, but I'm afraid that I just can't justify the costs of all the clobber that gas requires and the fact that it isn't remotely scale to have all that stuff. There's a limit to all the brass bound b****ry boxes you want stuffed into a hull.
As to meths, I have never had any problems with it on my various toy steam engines.
I think controllability is a case of "get it going and set it off" The fire is only going to go down after all and I am not a huge fan of endless bombling round a pond to no real end. So it'll only be run for 5 minutes maybe and that only occasionally. I wouldn't, for instance, use it on the river up the road, in case I couldn't get to it. So accessible ponds only.
I have a friend who has experimented with meths burners which are both effective and safe for even bigger engines and boilers. He got one to work on a monotube "not quite flash-" steam boiler.
What you say about Model engineers has proved correct in my experience, but worst of the lot are model boat clubs! Monosyllabic, miserable, unwelcoming bunch of old farts. I was only today at my local model flying field and having a fine old chat with two fellows who didn't know me from Adam. What a shame I couldn't begin to afford model aircraft these days.
But then we have "fizzy", offering to design me a boiler. You can't get much friendlier than that!
Cheers,
Martin